First, if we are to effectively eradicate incidents of child sex crimes, it is all our responsibilities to increase the dialogue and push for a cultural shift in the way we view sex—and women in Jamaica. Sexualizing young kids is never funny, playful, incidental or harmless. Until we stop looking at children, young girls in particular, as sex objects, molestation and sex crimes will remain a cancer eating away at contemporary Jamaica.
Pick a ‘P’
There are two simple choices: You are either a PREDATOR or a PROTECTOR. There is absolutely no middle ground when it comes to safeguarding our children’s trust, innocence, peace of mind and welfare. As a protector, it is your responsibility to report cases of abuse, even when those closest to you, your family’s breadwinners, are the perpetrators. Knowing and not reporting is not only a breach of that promise to protect it is in fact a crime. Failure to protect ALL children, your children is doing everything in your power to support and safeguard the offender. Know something? Say something. Suspect something? Ask questions; say something; DO SOMETHING!
Adopt Your School
This is simpler than it sounds. By rolling out the GMD program in your home school (basic, primary, high), you’ll be help us reach every Jamaican school in our quest to provide healing to those already affected, and to prevent abuse of the vulnerable. Ask us how simple yet infinitely rewarding it is to help your school, your community heal and prosper!
Become a MAN
By proclaiming your aversion to childhood sex crimes, you’ll be helping to spread the word whilst showing your intolerance for any and all kinds of violence against our children. As a member of Men Against Nastiness, you’re showing you’re not okay with abuse. Ask us how easy it is to show you care!
Become a WOMAN
Quite simply, you’ll be among the ranks of a powerful group: We’re Over Molestation And Nastiness! You’ll be standing up for every Jamaican girl and boy, being their defense against exploitation and abuse, and you’ll be helping girls grow into women free from the pains of abuse, and boys into men of honor. It’s quite easy; just ask us how!
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Vigilance not Vigilantism
They say an ounce of prevention is better than a pound of cure. This is perhaps truest when it comes to child sex abuse. Because every child deserves to grow up with his/her trust and sexual boundaries in tact, it is the responsibility of every adult to help prevent child sex crimes.
Damage, in most cases irreparable, has been done once a child has been sexually violated. Attacking or killing the abuser often does little to rehabilitate the child. In fact, such vigilantism has the opposite effect, adding guilt and responsibility for the person’s death to an already long list of negative emotions borne by the child.
Rather than focus on vengeance after the fact, that passion should be put into preventing child sex abuse in the first place. Preventing the abuse betters our communities by breaking the cycle of other societal and health issues, like teen pregnancy, violent crime, drug and alcohol abuse, obesity, heart disease and suicide – all far more likely to be experienced by victims of sexual abuse. Learning the facts about child sex abuse helps prevent it. Factual, honest conversations about child sex abuse help prevent it. Getting involved helps prevent it. Taking the law into your own hands DOESN’T prevent it.
Vigilance equals prevention. Vigilantism is a lot like trying to fortify your house after it has been destroyed by hurricane.
Care to Share
Thank you for caring, bless you for sharing! See, by sharing your stories, you are helping to comfort children, reminding them they are not alone. Support is paramount in transcending victimhood. Your support will help transform a victim into a survivor!
Prevent to Avoid Cure
Vigilance and dialogue are essential in helping to prevent child sex abuse. So is ensuring you create an atmosphere of mutual trust. Additionally, the following can be used as a broad guide in helping to preventing sex abuse and its impact; naturally, these are a guide and should not take the place of common sense:
Talk About It: You should begin by encouraging and fostering open communication in which the child feels comfortable telling you just about anything. Please remember it is extremely difficult for a child to ‘say no’ to a person of authority, whether a teacher, an uncle, a clergy. By having open honest communication with your child before something happens, you are setting the foundation and making it easier for your child to confide in you. Be mindful however, and understand why children are afraid to ‘tell.’
Boundaries: Set clear boundaries with your children. By teaching them about their bodies and what constitutes violation, you are helping to equip them to recognize behaviors that compromise their boundaries. For example, you could teach your child that no one, not even an adult can touch her vagina. If children do not know what constitutes sexual boundaries, we can hardly expect them to know when those boundaries are breached.
Learn the Facts: By understanding the risks, you are better able to safeguard your children. Realities, not trust, should guide your decisions about your children. And, stay alert. Although signs are usually there, unless you are alert and attentive, you might miss them.
Minimize the Risks: It is also important to minimize the risks by eliminating wherever possible, one-adult/one-child situations. In doing so you’ll drastically lower the risk of sexual abuse of your children.
Act on Suspicions: Trust your instincts and report all suspicions of sex abuse. While it is important you assure your child and make him/her your priority, it is important to note that you have the responsibility to report suspicions of abuse so they can be properly investigated by the proper agencies. Children are experts at self-blame and it is key you help them realize they were victimized, not the other way around.
Take a Stand: Choose to stand with your child, not the abuser. By taking the appropriate steps, let your child know that he/she will be believed!